The LORD God said:
"It is not good for the man to be alone.”
This particular verse in scripture has always made me pause for reflection given what comes next as the solution. It is a powerful truth, yet a difficult one to comprehend. For on the one hand, celibacy (the renunciation of marriage for the sake of the kingdom of God) is praised and espoused (pun intended) by Jesus himself, while on the other hand God sees that man on his own, to use his words, “is not good.” So he creates for him a lifelong companion - the woman, Eve. So, what gives?
Is there a contradiction? We cannot imagine so because God doesn’t make mistakes. So what are we to make about, what to us, is an apparent conundrum?
The verse certainly underscores the inherent social and relational aspect of human existence. “It is not good for the man to be alone” suggests that companionship is a fundamental part of God’s design for humanity.
At the same time, Jesus’ espousal of celibacy, particularly in passages like Matthew 19:10-12, introduces an essential dimension to the understanding of human relationships. His teachings emphasize that celibacy can be a holy and valuable vocation, particularly for those who can accept it for the sake of the Kingdom of God.
Ultimately, understanding these perspectives encourages us to appreciate both the sacrament of marriage as a gift and the calling of celibacy as equally valuable. They are not in opposition but rather part of the broader tapestry of God’s plan for human relationships—inviting us to navigate our unique paths while fostering community and connection wherever we may be.
Yet the readings today are pointing us to an even more wonderful realization—the precious and sacred gift that is the woman.
How often have women been unappreciated for everything they are and everything they do? They give men a purpose for living and the will to go on. They are the heart of families and ever generous in their love. Yet all too often, they have been made to struggle. Our Lord sees that struggle.
In today’s gospel a woman is in distress. She is a mother. She comes to Jesus pleading on behalf of her daughter who is possessed by a demon. Jesus at first seemingly rejects and insults her. “Let the children be fed first. For it is not right to take the food of the children and throw it to the dogs." But what he was doing was getting her to express her faith further. And that’s just it, whereas the world at times brings out the worst in women, exploiting them for self-gain, and dehumanizes them, Jesus always brings out the best in us.. the best version of ourselves.. the saintly version. Look at how he got this daughter of his to humbly express her trust in him. She replied and said to him, "Lord, even the dogs under the table eat the children's scraps." In other words, “No worries, even the little you wish to give, I’ll take.” It was an indirect, “Thy will be done.” Jesus smiles at her heroic words, and then happily sends her home to her healed daughter. Jesus once again demonstrates utter care for his beloved children.
Is it good for man to be on his own? No. None of us, not a single one of us are ever truly on our own and Jesus’ care for this woman and her daughter is a sign of that. Let’s be careful to not isolate ourselves and think we make this journey alone, but also to realize the need for retreating once in a while to appreciate the goodness of God, who is always at our side. Let us look after each other and let us protect and safeguard the dignity of women first and foremost, for in doing so we give honour and praise to God who created all things - but spent extra special time creating his greatest masterpiece, humanity—men and women called to journey with one another.
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